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 I am what people call the "mom friend."

I don't how or when this happened, but it probably has something to do with my caring instincts. If someone needs my help, I am there. If that means googling an answer (even though the other person is perfectly capable of googling it themselves), I will do it. If that means dropping everything to help someone else, I will do it. If that means worrying about people and making sure they're taking care of themselves, I will worry and try to encourage people to take care of themselves.

I totally haven't asked people if they've eaten lunch or booked a doctor's appointment like they said they would... 😬 sorry, y'all.

I just like knowing that the people I care about are taken care of, whether by themselves, a loved one, or by me. I know that it's not my job (as a non-mother) to be pestering people about things concerning their health and well-being, but I still find myself acting that way anyway.

I don't really know if that's a good thing or a bad thing. I suppose it depends on how the other person feels about it? And making sure that I help myself as much as I help others. 

Like so many things in life, it's all about balance. Supporting myself and not forgetting I need to look after me too. Supporting people but not smothering. 

Hey, is that where smothering comes from? Intensive mothering? 

(I looked it up, it absolutely does not come from there. OED only talks about smothering fires and whatnot.)

I'm sure my therapist could come up with reasons as to why I'm like this, but as long as nobody's hurt by it, then what's the harm. 

And maybe one day, I'll have kids and get to really showcase my mothering skills. Or I'll be reeeeeeeeally bad at it. Who's to say! 

Hope you enjoyed this slightly less depressy post. My mother-instincts kicked in and said to write something less sad for my children (the readers). 

(me checking up on people)

i worry about you - bombay bicycle club